争事

強く出るな

tsuyoku deru na / つよくでるなDo not come on too strong

Meaning

Do not take a forceful stance in the dispute. Even if you are in the right, pressing hard makes the other side defensive, and a gentler approach gets through more easily.

What to do today

If you have something to say, swap one strong word for a softer one.

A word from the capybara

Speak slowly, and the other side usually sits down too.